This is the first time I have had a non-author as a guest writer on my blog. However, my latest guest nonetheless has a story to tell. She requested that I use a pseudonym as she wished to remain anonymous, therefore I will now hand you over to Mary.
A Visit From Rob
In the summer of 2007 my husband passed to Spirit. We had no children and I have no living relative so his loss really did mean the end of the life I had known. Overnight my companion, best friend, playmate and all the memories of 30 years disappeared and when it became apparent I could not expect any support from ‘close friends’, I plunged headfirst into a loneliness and despair from which I had little expectation of ever emerging again. My isolation was absolute. I received no communication from the outside world for months on end and as this state of misery persisted found I had little will or energy to try and change things. No one ever warns just how exhausting the process of deep grieving is.
Evenings seemed to get lonelier as time passed. To shorten them I went to bed earlier and earlier. But I could not sleep and the radio on low volume provided a level of companionable sound in an otherwise silent house. Whilst listening to a radio play one evening I became aware of the weight of a comforting arm around my shoulder and I lay for some while, completely still, scarcely breathing, lest the spell be broken. But the spell did break and the weight seemed to dissolve and, for once, I slept deeply.
For many days I considered what had happened. My heart said it was Rob but then I dismissed that idea as a fancy. I was unsettled. Eventually I got the idea to seek out a reputable medium. That interview was so comforting and uplifting that I started to attend my local Spiritualist Church regularly in the hope I would get more contact from my husband.
I waited two full years but no contact came. During that time I had got to know a few people at my local church and one evening one of them told me that I was waking on the stroke of 3 a.m each morning and that when this next happened I should rest on my elbows and make quite sure I was fully awake. I would then feel pressure on my leg. He could not say more except, that according to his Spirit Guide, I could expect something special.
On 28 October 2009 I awoke at 3am. Mindful of what had been said I sat up in bed. I was definitely awake. The room was dark and chilly. I pulled the duvet up around my bare shoulders and looked again at the time. Four minutes had passed. I lay still for a bit longer and then felt a gentle pressure on the outside of my right calf. I was stunned. Not knowing how to react I rolled over towards the centre of the bed and slid my hand under the other pillows and there to my amazement Rob appeared to be laying beside me but on top of the bedclothes. He was fully dressed in a sports jacket white shirt and golf club tie, navy trousers and highly polished shoes. He had his eyes shut and he looked beautiful. He had his usual outdoorsy tan but his skin had another quality, which I have no real means to describe to you. His skin had a silky, pearly quality as if subtly lit from within. The effect of this light reminded me of white under ultra violet light but a gentler effect and not so stark or glaring. All this was clearly visible during the small hours in an unlit room in late October.
We talked but I do not remember seeing his lips move or hearing any sound. It went thus:-
Me: What are you doing here ? Why have you come ?
Rob: I was sent.
Me: I am OK. You don’t need to worry about me.
Rob: I watched that film Ghost with you the other evening,
Me: Yes Patrick Swayze died of the same thing as you and they are showing his films.
Rob: I watched that other one with you too….Dirty something or other. Didn’t like it
Whilst we had this very mundane conversation Rob remained flat on his back whilst I was leaning on my elbow looking at him. Over his abdomen I could see Bessie, my dog, asleep in her basket. She had not stirred. I could see the time on the clock radio at the other side of the bed from mine. It was 3.20am. I could see the rest of the room clearly and in detail as if it was the middle of the afternoon.
Then Rob got up from the bed and walked around it towards the window. I made a note of his height against the cupboard door. He seemed to be looking at the curtain pole as if there was something wrong with it. The roller binds were pulled down. They are not blackout blinds and I observed that it appeared to be as daylight outside which enabled me to see his face and for the first time I saw him with his eyes open as he turned towards me and gave me a very loving smile which was full of support and understanding. Whilst I watched him he simply melted away.
I was now laying on my back having watched Rob walk around the bedroom until he departed. My clock said just 3.40am. The room had gone back to dark. I was aware of how smooth my hands felt. Rubbing them together I noticed they made no noise. They felt as if I had used the very best of hand creams. Then I realised my fingers and parts of my palms had the same light I had seen on Rob’s skin. It was all very overwhelming emotionally and I chose to sleep and think about it all in the morning.
On waking everything that I remembered seemed like a dream. It was as if the act of sleeping had altered my belief that all this had actually happened. Had I dreamt it all ? My first instinct was to get up and see what was wrong with the curtain pole and yes there was a mark just where Rob seemed to be looking. Then I arranged pillows to check the sight line to the dog and the other radio alarm. Yes that all checked out too. And his height against the cupboard door measured correctly. I needed a long walk to clear my mind.
On return I decided to speak to the medium who had for warned me. And yes he already knew from his Spirit Guide I had received my night visitor. I will add that neither before nor since this occurrence have I ever dreamt of Rob. I am told this is because I would choose to stay with him and not return to live out the rest of my life. What passes between us during my sleeping hours will never be remembered by me. Over two years after his visit and nearly five years after his passing I have never yet dreamt of him.
Perhaps she will never really know for sure. The fact is though, she gained strength and found comfort from his visit. 🙂
I agree with what Sheryl said, if she found comfort then that is a good thing. Very moving post. Thank you.
what an incredible story! Thank you for sharing it.
What an incredible story. Thanks for sharing.
Incredible story and touched a chord. My mother went through something similar a few years after my father died. Whether it’s the mind or there is something “out there” is very much open to interpretation and conjecture but if it brings comfort and strength then the how does not matter.
Wow! Very special story–and how comforting! Mary, I believe it was a visit from your husband letting you know he’s just fine and still with you, even in the “little” moments. Richard, thanks for sharing this wonderful experience on your blog!
I know this lady & thought that I understood how much she had suffered. I was wrong. From the ashes of pain which I can only imagine, has risen a lady of great strength & an inspiration to myself & those around her.
God bless you Mary
Thank you too Richard for allowing us to share this story.
Thanks for taking the time to leave a comment Carol 🙂
Our natural instinct is to dismiss anything as being imagination or wishful thinking. I’m afraid being a sceptic is easy, accepting is the hard part! Loved this story and how lovely – whether or not acceptance comes.