Everyone has their own idea of what spirituality is according to their own perception. But most people would think that it is a combination of having some sort of faith in a higher power, attending a place of worship, reading scriptures, meditating and carrying out charitable acts. Personally, I think those things have an association with spirituality but they themselves are not spirituality per se. To me spirituality is the expression of spirit through the physical form here in the world of matter. That’s another way of saying “living our truth” or “listening to and following our inner voice (conscience)”, regardless of the circumstances.

We are all spirit whether we like it or not and whether we care to accept it or not, and the purpose for incarnating into flesh is for us to experience what the soul knows, but cannot experience itself because it is pure consciousness. Then, through this experience, to realize the truth of The Self (who we really are), or to put it another way; to become self-realized or awakened. The physical world is always in Divine and perfect order, even though it may not seem like it at times, but for us to know that something is beautiful we have to have something ugly to compare it with, otherwise we would never know when we were gazing upon beauty. Of course, it goes without saying that “beautiful” and “ugly” are merely relative and a matter of opinion. What this all means is that we may not necessarily enjoy everything that we experience, which stands to reason if we are not awakened souls and therefore unable to transcend the physical illusion. Now, back to the main focal point of this article; “what is spirituality”.

Gurkha, Gyranraj Rai with actress Joanna Lumley

Malala Yousafzai

I am reminded of a cross-gender person I knew when I lived in West Wales; her name was Melony. She must have been in her late 50’s or early 60’s at the time and was the sweetest person you could ever meet. She wore the type of clothes you would expect a “lady of a certain age” to wear, the only thing was that Melony was obviously a man. She was very tall and had rather large hands, she was unmistakably a man. But as I said, she was a very kind and sweet person; also a church-goer and personality wise, she was a woman; not camp in any way but plainly and simply a woman. One day I was out and about in Aberaeron and I bumped into Melony and another man who was not cross-gender, and I’m ashamed to say, that when I stopped to talk to her I was looking around nervously in case anyone I knew walked past and saw me talking to a man in woman’s clothes. The reason I’m sharing this here is because the way that Melony chose to live her life was also an amazing display of courage. The body was that of a man, but inside she was a woman.

Try to imagine this; how many people would have carried on living a lie; not expressing their truth, for the sake of looking normal on the outside. Imagine what it would be like, every time you go out in the street, to have people sniggering behind your back and pointing the finger at you. Imagine the abuse that people like Melony have to take, both verbal and physical, simply for having the courage to live their truth. She was renowned among people who knew her as being very kind and caring and I personally noticed that she had the most gentle character; I also remember that she owned a large white van and would get asked from time to time to do removals for people. Yes, I’m sure she has faced great adversity and experienced the pain that goes hand in hand with the life she has chosen; but I bet the pain she has experienced is nowhere near as excruciating as the pain she would have felt inside had she chosen to ignore her inner voice and live a lie.

None of us know how courageous we are until our courage is put to the test.

Man cannot discover new oceans unless he has the courage to lose sight of the shore – Andre Gide

The courage to be is the courage to accept oneself, in spite of being unacceptable – Paul Tillich

Courage is the first of human qualities because it is the quality which guarantees the others – Aristotle